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Lessons from a Preschooler: Time by Allan Hunter

Take time to let me see things. If I’m walking along and I get distracted by a pebble or a bottle cap it’s because I haven’t seen many of them, and they’re fascinating. I want to stop and look. Every flower is an adventure for me. So don’t hurry me along or drag me away. Don’t you want me to notice things?

When I get ready in the morning, please allow me some time. I can put on my own shoes. I can get into my own jacket, most of the time. If you rush me, if you insist on doing it for me because it takes too long for me to do it on my own, what are you teaching me? That I can’t do things?

It takes time for me to do stuff that you do easily. But when I do things for myself it makes me feel proud and grown up. I feel confident about everything. So take some extra time, and let me do it.

Sometimes when we’re out shopping and I see something I’ll say, “I want it!” Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. Mostly I just mean that I want to hold it, whatever it is, for a while before I put it back. I don’t want to own it. I just want to know what it is, and by holding it I can get a better sense of it. I’m not telling you to buy it.

If I feel like dancing, will you dance with me? Wouldn’t that be fun? Why do they play music in stores if they don’t want us to dance?

Sometimes when we’re out shopping and I see something I’ll say, “I want it!” Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. Mostly I just want to hold it before I put it back.

I like it when we read stories together. I don’t always remember the stories. What I remember is snuggling up close to you, looking at the pictures and sharing that cozy feeling. Read it again! Please?

I can peel my own banana. It tastes better that way.

If you let me I can make up my own games.

Sometimes I get angry when I can’t say things when I haven’t got the words. But I get much more angry and sad if I think you have lost patience with me trying.

Sometimes I’ll say: “I can’t do it” because I want you to do it for me. What I really mean is: can you help me and show me how to do it for myself?

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 

DR. ALLAN HUNTER is a professor emeritus of Literature at Curry College. He is the author of 12 books, a counselor, and an explorer of the deep truths conveyed by storytelling.  www.allanhunter.net