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Nurturing the Gifts of our Highly Sensitive Children by Nicola Haslett

We live in a beautiful age of transformation and spiritual awakening. Amongst the chaos and disharmony in this world, there are a wave of special children being born to help guide us into a new age; one of peace and harmony. Some call them star children, indigo, crystal or rainbow children. But whatever label we give them, these children are highly sensitive beings of pure light. They are born with wise minds, open hearts, and awakened souls. They are our greatest teachers and they are here to change the world.

Unfortunately, sensitivity is not always accepted in this world…and definitely not always nurtured and seen as the blessing that it really is. Little boys especially are taught to ‘toughen up’ and we’ve somehow reached a point where children are expected to be independent from a very young age and seeing to their needs is seen as “pampering” to some.

Raising sensitive children consciously takes awareness, understanding, and patience. All children are sensitive, but the highly sensitive children I’m referring to are the ones who tend to find living in this world very overwhelming.

Here are some common traits of the highly sensitive child:

1 Intense emotional reactions

They feel almost euphoric when they are happy but also feel anger, sadness and fear more intensely. They cry often and their feelings are hurt easily. They tend to be little worriers who mull things over and can carry the heaviness of the world on their shoulders. This is why many sensitive children experience anxiety.

2  Easily overstimulated

These are the children who take a long time to go to sleep at night as they find it difficult to wind down. They are easily overstimulated by too much activity, television/screen time, socialising, school work and so on. Many parents of sensitive children notice a change in behaviour following periods of overstimulation and sleep patterns especially are affected. They may take a long time to go to sleep, struggle to stay asleep or experience nightmares.

3 Highly Empathic

These beautiful souls have such open hearts, that they are like little sponges who soak up the feelings of others around them, even those they don’t know. They are kind, caring and can take on the role of the ‘helper’ or “rescuer.”

4 Introverted Personalities

Highly sensitive children usually come across as introverted, especially before you get to know them. They can appear quiet, shy and withdrawn, especially in large crowds or in unfamiliar places and they are hesitant in new situations. Social situations overwhelm them easily and they feel much more comfortable in small groups. They’re slow to warm to people and feel very shy around strangers. They prefer to stay close to mum and dad or someone they view as ‘safe’ until they feel comfortable.

5  Sensitive to Stimuli

A common challenge for sensitive children is their high sensitivity to subtle stimuli. They may dislike rough clothing or ‘itchy’ tags, feel too hot or too cold and so on. They can be very sensitive to bright lights, loud noises, strong smells and subtle changes that others may not even be aware of. It’s also very common for sensitive children to have intolerances to certain foods such as gluten, dairy, soya and they definitely don’t do well on foods that contain artificial colours and additives.

6  Wise beyond their years

These are the children who appear mature and have an ‘old head on young shoulders’. They might prefer spending time with adults instead of other children and appear very responsible. They have bright minds and ask thoughtful questions and as they grow they become our wisest teacher!

Feeling overwhelmed is usually the biggest challenge for sensitive children.

Highly sensitive children are a true blessing to humanity. They embody the medicine that this world so desperately needs, but in order for them to thrive in this age, it’s important they are understood by those closest to them and supported in creating healthy boundaries and balance within and without. We can’t wrap our sensitive ones up in cotton wool (even though it can be tempting!) but what we can do is give them the tools to cope in a world that doesn’t always understand their sensitivity and ensure they always know how special they are.

So what specifically can we do to help?

1 Offer them CALMNESS

Feeling overwhelmed is usually the biggest challenge for sensitive children. Whether it be loud noises, intense emotions or crowded places that overwhelm them, it’s important we teach them how to relax and feel calm. Meditation is a wonderful way to help these children and this is something they can enjoy from a young age. Storytelling meditations are specifically designed to engage children and use subtle language to help relax their body, calm their busy mind and assist them in processing difficult or uncomfortable emotions. I have several children’s meditations available on the App store which you can find using the link at the end of this article.

2 Practice GROUNDING

Sensitive children are usually highly spiritual beings who can easily feel connected to the spiritual world, but often feel disconnected from the Earth plane, so they can benefit from grounding. Simply walking barefoot on the Earth is a fantastic way to help children feel more balanced, centered and grounded. Playing outside in nature and connecting with the elements is perhaps the most beneficial remedy for these special souls.

3 Give them an OUTLET

Sensitive children are passionate, creative, and deeply emotional so it’s important they have a way to channel these intense energies. Whether it be sport, music, the arts or something else they enjoy, it’s vital they have an outlet, to avoid them feeling overwhelmed. Encourage them to make time for what they love; maybe they like to dance, sing, paint, make music, act, play football, practice martial arts or something else. Sensitives can feel the heaviness of the world and making time for fun and creativity is important!

4 PROTECT their energy

However tempting it might be to wrap our little sensitives in cotton wool, they’re here to be out in the world, making a difference. Something you can do, however, is to place an energetic bubble of protection around them that will help shield them from lower energies and assist them in feeling more balanced. For young children, you can imagine them being surrounded by a beautiful bubble of pure white light and hold the intention that this bubble protects and shields them from all lower energies that aren’t for their highest good, but allows positive energy to flow freely into their energy field. If your child is old enough to practice the visualization themselves, you can guide them in imagining the bubble around them and repeating the following affirmation out loud:

“It is my intention to be shielded and protected from all lower energies that are not for my highest good. I am open to receive all positive, high vibrational energy that is for my highest benefit and I affirm that I am energetically clear, grounded and protected and all times. So be it and so it is.”

5 Teach them about BOUNDARIES

Empathic children can easily fall into the role of the ‘helper’ or ‘rescuer’ as they grow older and teaching them to have boundaries can help to avoid burnout; both physical and emotional. These special children can feel as though it’s their job to ‘fix’ others and this is a huge responsibility for anybody to take on, but especially children. Teaching them that it’s not their job to fix others and that it’s okay to say no, is very important. The greatest healers are those who heal themselves first and create safe and appropriate boundaries. Self-care is vital for sensitives as is knowing that it’s okay to stay away from anything that drains and depletes them.

older and teaching them to have boundaries can help to avoid burnout—both physical and emotional.

It’s also worth noting that if you are a highly sensitive adult (like me) then you will also benefit from acting on the steps above. Take the time to learn about your sensitivity, about what it means to be an ‘empath’ and always remember:

Your sensitivity is a gift and a great blessing. Nurture it, for it’s the medicine this world so desperately needs.

With love to you, from one sensitive to another.

Nicola’s “Starlight Bedtime Meditation” and “Mindfulness Bedtime Meditation” can be listened to within this Children’s Meditation App here:

iTunes App Store: https://apple.co/2Jk4TQN

Google Play Store: https://tinyurl.com/y8cebpz3

Google Play Store: https://tinyurl.com/y8cebpz3

ABOUT THE AUTHOR


NICOLA HASLETT
is a British Holistic Therapist with a special interest in True Self Living. She trained in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy after experiencing the life changing effects of these therapies herself and now she is dedicated to using her experience and wisdom to help others.

With a passion for helping others, Nicola is the co-owner of publishing company Aluna Moon Publishing which produces self-help and meditation apps, recordings and online courses to help others relax, heal and come back to their true authentic selves. Nicola’s apps and guided meditations have now been played more than 3 million times worldwide and are especially popular on the free meditation app, Insight Timer.

Aside from her work in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy, Nicola feels passionate about natural, gentle parenting and enjoys writing articles that will support, encourage and inspire parents everywhere to live more naturally and authentically.

To find out more about Nicola’s self-hypnosis and free meditation recordings please visit: www.alunamoon.com. You can also view a selection of her free Apps at http://ow.ly/UCji8 and find free meditations and online courses on www.insighttimer.com/alunamoonpublishing