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10 Easy Ways to Build Connection With Your Child by Sue DeCaro

As humans, we are all programmed for connection. Our children need this in their lives in order to feel acknowledged, appreciated, and valued.  When our children feel disconnected, that is when we may see behaviors that seem undesirable or chaotic.

Here are 10 ways to connect with your children.

  • Be completely present when you are with your child, free of distractions.
  • When you are communicating with your child, create an avenue to be at eye level whenever you can.
  • Spend 15 minutes of dedicated time with each child. Allow your child to be the director of an activity and follow along. Live in your child’s world for those 15 minutes. Afterward, share with your child what you enjoyed about that time together or the activity.
  • At bedtime, snuggle with your child as much as they will let you. Allow your child the freedom to talk freely. Be compassionate, acknowledge your child’s feelings, and listen. Don’t try to solve anything. Just listen.
  • Create an opportunity for your child to join you or your partner in making dinner for the family. Work with your child on the menu, the ingredients, setting the table and constructing the meal.
  • Share a story with your child about when they were younger or a newborn and something in particular that stood out to you or touched you emotionally during that time.
  • Buy a large canvas and use paints, markers, crayons, etc. to create a masterpiece with your child or children. Perhaps this is something that you hang somewhere for the entire family to enjoy.
  • Write a poem, short story or special random note for your child that you can leave on top of their pillow, sharing with them how much they mean to you.
  • Make a tent using blankets that cover a large area and leave space underneath for you and your child to go. Put a lamp under and share time together perhaps reading stories or telling stories. Popcorn is always a nice addition, too.
  • Share the most embarrassing moments in your life with your child. Connecting on this level shows the child that we are human and have experienced situations just as they might, and that they are all part of life. This might bring some humor to the situation.

For more information, please email me at sue@decaroparentcoaching.comor connect with me through my website: As a parent coach, I assist parents all over the world, to connect more deeply with themselves as well as their children. Connection is key in being there for our children.

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SUE DECARO is a Certified Parent Coach and Educator and the founder of DeCaro Parent Coaching, a private practice supporting parents and families, where she integrates education, consciousness, and coaching to help families to grow and thrive, revitalizing the joy in parenting. Sue works with families whose ability to function is somewhat jeopardized by one or more challenges. In each case, she helps them take advantage of their strengths to reshape family interactions in a positive way.

Sue DeCaro is also co-founder of Building Connected Communities, a company dedicated to supporting therapists, coaches and other professionals trying to make a difference in the world doing work that they love. Through this organization, Sue and her co-founder, Erin support entrepreneurs around the globe as they educate parents, teachers and administrators, all who have an impact of the lives of children, reshaping the way we engage and interact with these beautiful beings. Sue and Erin also co-own Building Connected Families, another wonderful community that supports parents day-to-day as they move through their lives, challenges, and interactions with their children and families. and