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The Art of Living with Unconditional Happiness by Arayeh Norouzi

1 Live in the present.

It is simply impossible to be unhappy in the present moment. Negative feelings are either residues from the memories in the past, or from worries and fears about the future. Since our working memory resources are limited, we cannot possibly be fully attentive to a present-moment experience and think about the past or the future at the same time. Challenge yourself to truly observe the majesty of a tree and feel grief, or embrace your children and cover them with kisses and tight hugs and feel ungrateful, or even pay attention to your breath and feel distress. It is amazingly impossible to feel sorrow when you are in the here-and-now.

2 Make a choice to be happy every morning.

When we make the decision to be happy, we allow ourselves to be open to receiving happiness. By tuning our mind onto happiness every morning, we start feeding happy thoughts. On the other hand, if we do not set the intention, we become vulnerable to negative vibrations such as lack and fear. The following is a powerful exercise to create heart coherence and elevate vibration in the morning:

  1. Put both hands on your heart.
  2. Take three deep breaths into your heart.
  3. Cultivate feelings of joy, peace, love, and gratitude for one to three minutes.
  4. Repeat every hour for more effective brain re-wiring.

3 Clear your limiting beliefs.

The limiting beliefs that have been imprinted in our subconscious mind as a defense mechanism throughout the early years of childhood are occasionally, if not always, the cause for our negative thoughts and feelings. The best way to discover limiting beliefs is through journaling. Pay attention to overgeneralization and bring counter examples to deconstruct the beliefs. For example, the overgeneralization could be, “I am not a conscious mom.” In this case, think of a time that you were able to handle your child’s tantrum with grace.

4 Meditate.

Meditation carries us into the deeper levels of consciousness where we are whole. This is a place where we remember we are not a drop in the ocean but the entire ocean in a drop as Rumi brilliantly reminds us. Aim to put aside at least 15 minutes every day to sit without distractions and become aware of your breath. Since our body is always in the present moment unlike our mind, you can also anchor yourself to the here-and-now by focusing on your body parts and relaxing them one by one. You may also repeat powerful words such as one, peace, love, and other mantras. When you become aware of a thought, simply bring your attention back to your breathing or repeat your mantra.

5 Love, do service, make someone happy.

It is impossible to make someone happy and stay unhappy. The last level of seven levels of personal conscious is service to humanity and the planet. Do random acts of kindness every day. The Universe is held together via the force of compassion. Help people without expectation. Hug more. Show your affection. Assign 20-second hugs and kisses with your family members each and every day.

6 Put things in perspective.

Our subconscious mind is inherently wired to detect and focus on flaws and imperfections in order to protect us from possible future failures. When we are triggered by a negative situation, we might find ourselves plunged in a pool of negativity in every aspect of our lives and personalities. The meaning we give to something is the energy we attract. As soon as you catch yourself in a negativity spiral, stop, take a deep breath, observe, and intend to focus on the aspects of your life that are filled with gratitude-worthy people, things, and blessings. By shifting your point of attention, you raise your vibration and cultivate your energy field to attract higher vibration events and feelings. Writing daily on a gratitude journal is fantastic to maintain a grateful perspective about life.

7 Up-cycle negative experiences.

The first step to up-cycle a negative experience is to raise your awareness and move through the negative feelings instead of denying or resisting them. Allow yourself several minutes to feel your emotions. For example, say, “I feel helpless, disappointed, etc.” Try to feel the energy of the emotion rather than ruminating about the story. By doing this, you take your power back from the person or the circumstance and upgrade yourself from a victimhood state to an awakened one. The next step is to choose an alternate viewpoint regardless of how unfeasible it might seem initially. Venture to find the silver lining. Ask yourself what you might have learned or gained from the experience. Instead of victimizing yourself, get curious and eager to take actions to turn the event around to your benefit. Recite to yourself, “Things happen FOR me, not TO me.”

8 Be aware that you are part of a whole.

The key word is TRUST. If we observe keenly, we see nothing but resourcefulness, intelligence, abundance, and order in the world around us and within us. When we have nothing to do with a developing fetus in a mother’s womb for 9 months, why do we self-righteously assume we are know-all and stand-alone creatures for the years to come? The motherly support and sublime presence ubiquitously surround us. What are we afraid of? Isn’t our coming to this world a miracle by itself? How about the magnificent turns of the four seasons? Why do we forget about the miracles of our five senses, our limbs and organs and our mysterious mind? Why do we choose to be oblivious to the myriads of marvels surrounding us and feel lonely and helpless most of the time? All is well. Just trust and be.

9 Establish a healthy daily routine.

Start your day by meditating, doing yoga, exercising, and writing in your gratitude journal. Do mindfulness exercises, walk in nature, eat healthy food, listen to good music, and play to raise your vibration every day. By intentionally choosing these activities, you refocus your point of attraction from lack and fear to joy and abundance. Plan your day the night before and prioritize your time to accomplish your daily tasks towards your noble goals and reward yourself when you do. Feeling of accomplishment induces feelings of joy and peace.

10 Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?

The only horse of a farmer went missing. The neighbors sympathized with him about his “bad luck.” In response to them, he said, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”. Days later, the horse returned with several wild horses. This time, the neighbors commended his “good luck.” He again replied,” Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?” After a while, his son broke his leg while riding of the horses. Neighbors again mentioned how unlucky he was when he once again said, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?” Finally, the government delegates came to recruit his son for a war, and the son was dismissed because of his broken leg. Now, do you think this was good luck or bad luck? Who knows?


ARAYEH NOROUZI is a certified transformational coach, a speaker, a mindful living conscious parenting educator, and a mother of two. As an engineer, a Ph.D. Candidate in Psychology, a Certified Life Coach, and a Reiki Master, she combines wisdom teachings and heart-based tools with science to create a unique impact on her clients. She not only helps her clients to become aware of their psychological triggers that cause suffering, but she empowers them with daily effective tools to actualize the best versions of themselves and create joy and harmony in their lives and the lives of their loved ones.